Beginning individual counselling
What to expect
Frequently asked questions
What happens in the first session?
We will talk about what has brought you here, what feels most pressing and what you hope counselling might offer. You can share at a pace that feels manageable.
You are welcome to ask questions about my approach or how counselling works. You do not need to prepare a detailed account before we meet; we can begin with what feels most important to you.
What will we work on over time?
What feels useful may change over time. We might begin with ways to feel more settled in daily life, then make space for grief, confusing and difficult interactions or questions about the future.
Our work can include recognizing your needs, considering boundaries and rebuilding confidence in your own judgment. We can revise your goals as your circumstances change.
Do I attend on my own?
Yes. The counselling offered here is individual work focused on you. Your partner does not need to be seeking support for you to begin. Couples counselling, if you choose, is the place where you and your partner attend together, and I do not provide post-betrayal couples counselling. I support you individually as you move through your experiences, and many people find individual counselling is helpful whether they decide to pursue couples work or not.
Will I be told whether to stay or leave?
No. I will support you in considering your needs, safety, circumstances and values. The purpose is to help you make informed choices, without directing you toward a particular relationship outcome.
What if the discovery of infidelity or betrayal was years ago?
There is no requirement that the discovery be recent. We can begin with the ways its effects are showing up in your life today. Often the pain of old discoveries can stay with us throughout the years.
How long will counselling take?
There is no single timetable that fits everyone. The focus and pace of counselling depend on your needs and the goals we identify together. We can discuss what is helpful and review our work along the way.
Can I attend online or in person?
I offer individual counselling in person in Nelson, BC, and online across Canada. You can choose an in-person or online appointment when booking through Valhalla Therapy.
Appointments and bookingWhat are your fees, are sessions covered by benefits, and how do I book?
Appointments and billing are managed through Valhalla Therapy.
Fees for a standard 50-minute session are $150. Cancellation notification is required 24 hours in advance or full session fees are charged. Coverage depends on your insurer and plan; please confirm your coverage for RCCs or CCCs before booking if you need to access it. You will receive an official receipt for submission to your insurer. You can book by clicking 'book a session' below.